Some first dates are usually weird and uncomfortable. It’s a little uncomfortable because the “rules” are pretty unclear. Most of society thinks the guy should pay for the meal or whatever you do but with the changing times, is that accurate anymore? One way around this is to just go dutch on a date.
“Going Dutch On A Date” What Does This Mean?
If you’re unfamiliar with this phrase, it’s just a classic term used to describe when each person pays for their own food and activities while on a date. Instead of making a single person pay for the whole thing, they split it and call it even. It sounds simple enough, but there are a lot of people still confused about it.
Because of all the “dating rules” we see out there, it’s becoming harder and harder to know how to act on a first date. Instead of actually enjoying each other, we’re focused on obeying the rules.
We don’t get to know the other person on the level we should and it’s uncomfortable all around. And first dates shouldn’t be that way. Which is why old rules that society has put in place just need to go. It’s not worth it.
So Should You Go Dutch On A Date?
The clear answer is yes. You should. Here’s why adopting this modern dating rule should be common practice amongst new potential couples everywhere.
#1 It eliminates awkwardness. You go into a date dreading the moment when the bill comes. It’s weird, uncomfortable, and the last thing you should be thinking about when you’re getting to know someone who could potentially be the one you spend your life with.
Being able to put that issue to rest ASAP will help you relax and actually enjoy your time with them. You also won’t have to worry about what to order and feel bad about getting something expensive since you’re paying for yourself.
#2 You won’t feel guilty if there’s no second date. A lot of people who get their first date paid for often feel guilty if they don’t want a second date. They feel like they owe the other person something even though they don’t.
A great solution to that is to go dutch on a date. You won’t have any remorse about forgoing a second date with someone. You won’t feel bad about the money they spent on you, at least.
#3 It puts you on an even playing field. You two are equals when you each pay for your own food and activities. It doesn’t put someone in a higher position of power and that’s really the best way to go about a date.
If they pay, you’ll feel the need to behave or get something cheap that you don’t actually want. When you’re on an even playing field, it’s a lot easier to be yourself and do what you want instead of what’s expected.
#4 There’s no expectations. Speaking of expectations, there are none when you go dutch. Some people *douchebags, mainly* feel that if they pay for the date, you then owe them something. Many try to cash in on that via a second date, or worse, making out.
When you go dutch on a date, there are no expectations. You just have fun together, pay for yourselves, and if you like one another, go on a second date. It’s easy to follow and everyone’s happy.
#5 It makes for more fun when you’re not worried about who pays. You can have a lot more fun when you just pay for yourself. All of your worries can drift away about the “dating rules” you need to follow and you can be yourself.
Not only is that a hell of a lot more fun, but you’ll be able to show them who you truly are when you can relax a bit more. This will help them open up, too, and it just makes for a better date.
Next time when going out on a first date, you should try it out.